1a. “I want to learn persuasion!”
- Start with “Influence” and “Pre-suasion” by Robert Cialdini.
- Then Google “Scott Adams persuasion reading list.”
- I would add 1 more book to Adams’ list: “Monsters and Magical Sticks.” There are some more but those are all on the advanced level.
- When you have read through some of the persuasion reading list, read Win Bigly by Scott Adams. It will tie it all together into usable strategies.
- I do some exposition of persuasion techniques in action on my blog: http://bit.ly/2xMxfNB
- Follow my account on Twitter @PersuasionRisng (without second “i” due to Twitter constraints) and search for “1.” or “students” or “persuasion.” You can find a lot of persuasion examples in my posts, particularly reframing.
- If you want to study belief change, the Sam Harris – Scott Adams podcast is a master class. Also: Socrates / Plato and Jesus.
1b: “Teach me persuasion faster than that!”
Spend $3k per seminar plus travel and lodging and go through Mike Mandel’s hypnosis trainings or Richard Bandler’s NLP trainings. Bandler’s books are not bad.
Michael Hall has some good books.
Tony Robbins is fine for most people, although in my opinion he installs too strong of motivation, to the compulsion level. I’m not into that, but some people love it. And if you go to any of his seminars be prepared to buy all of his stuff, according to your income and over an appropriate time.
I teach applied interpersonal persuasion (i.e. not sales or marketing copy) to individual clients. I also teach business persuasion to executives and small business owners who understand the value of networking and the ability to move others’ minds in the business world. Email me through this blog for details.
1c: “I don’t have the cash. Is there a ‘budget path’?”
Persuasion is power. Earn it to own it.
Read the books in 1a. For each book:
- Read something by someone persuasive (Trump, Obama, Tony Robbins, Alan Dershowitz, Peggy Noonan, MLK, almost any presidential speech, a blog post from me or Scott Adams, etc.) and WRITE OUT NOTES explaining the use of any techniques you’ve read about.
- Then, take an opinion editorial and rewrite it using the persuasion techniques you learned in that book. Do this with BOTH ones you agree with and with ones you actively disagree with. This last part is perhaps the most important, so be sure you embrace it fully.
- Create your own flash cards with the techniques. Practice talking about a subject, pull out a flash card at random, and work that technique into your discussion on the fly in real time.
- Find a live, in-person partner to practice the flash card conversations with.
- Twitter can be good practice too, but remember that a key component of persuasion is calibrating to the others and using voice tone and body language, which can’t be done via Twitter.
2a: “I want to clear out my emotional baggage” or “I want to reach emotional clarity.”
Spend ~$90 and buy a 4-pack of paraliminals from Learning Strategies (and use these links because it helps me support the blog). Get these 4 sessions:
- New History Generator
- New Option Generator
- Self-Esteem Supercharger (This is not actually about self-esteem. Get it.)
- Any other one that strikes you.
Every week for 6 months, listen to New History Generator, then New Option Generator, then Supercharger, in that order, during the week. Listen to your fourth one any time you want.
In 6 months so many of your issues will be gone and replaced with pretty good functionality that you will barely recognize your old limits. And you will feel so good doing it that you will enjoy the process as well.
If you want faster results, I do individual sessions with some clients. Send me a direct message on twitter or an email through this blog for details.
2b: “How can I use persuasion and/or hypnosis to improve my life?”
There are many, many ways. Some posts on that are in the works.
2c: “Just give me one single thing to do to improve my life.”
If I could give all of humanity one single piece of advice, it would be to let it go.
The Let It Go paraliminal session can be used to release issues universally. As far as I can tell, the releasing of attachments is also the only effective way to immunize yourself from cognitive dissonance.
3: “I practice Stoicism / Buddhism / Jainism. What can help?”
In my experience the biggest challenge with non-attachment philosophies/religions is that most adherents mistakenly conflate emotional suppression with actual non-attachment. There is no value in emotional suppression. A superior approach is to fully experience and then let it go. An approach called the Sedona Method (full course) or Let It Go (paraliminal) is one way to do that. Letting go is the best way I know of to practice non-attachment, non-disinterest.
Gary Craig’s Gold Standard EFT (which he teaches free of charge) is remarkably effective.
Meditation and many eastern practices like tai chi, qi gong, yoga, etc also work, although they take longer and work more on a holistic (rather than issue-by-issue) approach.
The more of your “emotional backlog” you let go of or clear out, the less your current experiences will trigger the pent-up emotions in your backlog. Clearing out your backlog entirely is the goal of many Eastern religious practices.
4: “I want to use persuasion to improve my sex and/or love life.”
Read my thoughts on a good method here (for both men and women, who want to connect with either men or women).
5: “How did you learn persuasion?”
More than two decades of working with my own mentor, undoing some seriously messed up programming done to me (and many others) as a teenager by a team of heavy duty persuaders who ran a fundamentalist religious group. Plus more study and practice than many people would believe. I spent countless hours reverse engineering examples of persuasion and hypnosis. And there’s more than that, but I don’t give away my secrets.
6: What is the 3D thing about?
My first ever email address ended with “L3D.” And once people started talking about persuasion as 3D vs the 2D world of information, it seemed like a natural fit.
7: “Persuasion is unethical!”
Go ahead and try to avoid persuading. It’s not possible.
Don’t mess people up though. Leave them better than you found them.
And remember, special forces elite commandos don’t get into bar fights.
8: “I’m too smart for persuasion or hypnosis to work on me.”
Some say intelligence is positively correlated with trance capacity. In my experience it’s simply built into how the human mind works.